The phone is the monster that wreaks much havoc in many relationships. Not necessarily the phone itself but the behavior it evokes in people. We interpret each others moods based on the conclusion of a phone conversation. Depending on what time of day (or night) the call is made or received, we gauge who the caller on the other end may be and of what importance the conversation may have on our relationship. Even if subconsciously.
Surprisingly, ignoring a call in some cases may be worse than accepting the call depending on the time of day the call comes in and the body language or facial expressions exuded from the intended receipt of the call. At the high school I attended there was a security guard, Mr. Huff, and he had this saying to express the importance of timing as it pertained to school attendance but it is perfect for this situation. It goes like this: "After 8 you late, after 9 you pay a fine, after 10 you don't get in". Well, that sorta expresses how I feel about late night phone calls, especially those from the opposite sex. Honestly, what really do you have to talk about after 10 with someone who you are not in a relationship with? No, this does not extend to family and in most cases your family will not and do not call after 10 anyway.
The red flag for "illegal" conversations/inappropriate "phone relations" is when the phone rings anywhere from 11 p-2 a...and it does not get answered even though it awakes you and your significant other. In my opinion you should answer it. How do you know it's not an emergency? If you know it's not an emergency just by the name and or number on the caller Id then a conversation should be had with that person so that they do not continue to disrupt your happy home, right then and there. By no means do you have to be rude to them but simply express that you are sleeping and are usually sleep around this time so that they get the hint. If you are not willing to do this then just maybe there is cause for concern from your partner.
Friday, September 26, 2008
My Friend Wants to Know...
It has been awhile! Not on purpose did I neglect my blog but because of pure confusion. I guess I'm at the time in my life where nothing makes sense and everything is new. Still mildly confused, I decided to bring an issue to the table so I could stop it from tormenting me. I truly enjoy the wide array of different viewpoints; well not that wide since not many of you respond!
Anyhoo, My Friend Wants to Know.... if she sleeps with a man while she is pregnant, who is not the father of the child, is that wrong? I wish I could have finessed that better but it is what it is.
My personal take on the issue:
Deal with the situation you are in at the moment before moving on to someone else. If this is your way of dealing with the situation at the moment then be able to handle the repercussion of your actions. It is not always going to be an instance where, "I needed it at the moment and that was that" because what if you contract a STD? Pregnant women are more apt to have unprotected sex because of the obvious. What if you get back together with your baby's father? Can you deal with the constant reminder that you stepped out while you were pregnant and have him potentially questioning the paternity of your child? Or, what if you fall in love with the guy who was intended for entertainment purposes only?
The waters get soooooo muddy when taking this route but hey I have always been more cautious than I sometimes agree with! So if you choose to throw it all in the wind and let loose, than let loose. Just make sure you don't cause yourself more emotional harm for short term happiness.
Anyhoo, My Friend Wants to Know.... if she sleeps with a man while she is pregnant, who is not the father of the child, is that wrong? I wish I could have finessed that better but it is what it is.
My personal take on the issue:
Deal with the situation you are in at the moment before moving on to someone else. If this is your way of dealing with the situation at the moment then be able to handle the repercussion of your actions. It is not always going to be an instance where, "I needed it at the moment and that was that" because what if you contract a STD? Pregnant women are more apt to have unprotected sex because of the obvious. What if you get back together with your baby's father? Can you deal with the constant reminder that you stepped out while you were pregnant and have him potentially questioning the paternity of your child? Or, what if you fall in love with the guy who was intended for entertainment purposes only?
The waters get soooooo muddy when taking this route but hey I have always been more cautious than I sometimes agree with! So if you choose to throw it all in the wind and let loose, than let loose. Just make sure you don't cause yourself more emotional harm for short term happiness.
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